You know when something happens…and your first reaction is:
“Why is this being taken from me?”😖
- A relationship shifts.
- An opportunity disappears.
- A door closes without warning.
And everything in you wants to say: “This shouldn’t be happening.”
I’ve been there too.
But over the years through my marriage, through coaching, through life, I started noticing something that changed everything:
Nothing is ever taken… without something also being given.🙏
Not always in the way you want.
Not always in the timing you would choose.
And definitely not wrapped in comfort.
But it’s there.
Sometimes what you “lose” is actually removing what was misaligned.
Sometimes what breaks… reveals what was already fragile.
Sometimes what hurts… awakens a part of you that was asleep.
And this is where leadership begins.
Because you don’t get to control what leaves.
But you do get to choose what you make of what arrives.
Rather than staying in the loss, replaying it or resenting it.
You are invited to ask a different question:
What is this here to give me?
Do you feel the difference in that?☺️
One keeps you stuck. The other… opens something.
In relationships, I see this all the time.
- A conflict comes up and instead of seeing it as something “wrong,” it becomes the doorway to deeper understanding.
- A disconnect shows up and instead of panic, it becomes an invitation to rebuild with intention.I don’t think anything is wasted.
I really don’t. Unless… we refuse to look for the gift.🎁